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10 C’s

THE 10 C’s of a GOOD AND PROPER RELATIONSHIP

  1. COMMUNICATION- “A family who prays together, stays together” Talk to each other respectfully, share ideas to always understand feelings and thoughts. Be friends! Confess your faults one to another and pray one for another , that ye may be healed (James 5:16). Research and understand the five languages of love. Avoid being foolish, clamorous, contentious
    or a talebearer. ( Prov.9:13; Lev.19:16; Prov. 21: 9).
  2. COMPATIBILITY- Be not unequally yoked (2 Corin. 6:14). Both must believe in and follow YHWH, His Son and the Laws for true happiness and Peace. The laws cover basic rules on sex, marriage, money, children, etc. Two cannot walk together unless they be in agreement.(Amos 3:3)
  3. CHARACTER – “All of them were heads of their families among the clans … Each man was a leader of a household and… with him ten leaders, of each chief house a leader “(Joshua 22:14). Also, Prov. 20 tells us to avoid strong drink, strife, boasting, deceitfulness, sluggardness, flattering and provoking others to anger. It exhorts us to be faithful , just, full of integrity, pure from sin, honor parents, be truthful and be merciful.
  4. COMPETENCE- Both husband and wife must be able to study together (2 Tim. 2:15) manage and teach the children, and take care of the household .
  5. CHILDREN- Prov. 22:6 Train up a child in the way he should go: and when he is old, he will not depart from it.
  6. CASH MANAGEMENT- (Eccles. 7:12) For wisdom is a defence, and money is a defence: but the excellency of knowledge is, that wisdom giveth life to them that have it. Agree on spending or whether to set up separate or joint accounts.
  7. CONTINENCE- Self-restraint in regards to sexual activity and moderation in all things. ( 1 Cor. 7:8-9) I say therefore to the unmarried and widows, it is good for them if they abide even as I. But if they cannot contain, let them marry: for it is better to marry than to burn. Couples should not deprive each other except perhaps by mutual
  8. consent for a set time, so that they may devote themselves to prayer.
  9. Then come together again so that Satan will not tempt them because of a
  10. lack of self-control.” (1 Cor. 7:2-5).
  1. COOKING -Both should know how to cook. To everything there is a season and a time for the woman to not cook while she is unclean.
  2. CLEANLINESS: (Lev.15:18, 19) The woman also with whom man shall lie with seed of copulation, they shall both bathe themselves in water, and be unclean until the even. And if a woman have an issue, and her issue in her flesh be blood, she shall be put apart seven days: and whosoever toucheth her
    shall be unclean until the even. Lev. 12-And the Lord spake unto Moses, saying, 2 Speak unto the children of Israel, saying, If a woman have conceived seed, and born a man child: then
    she shall be uncleans even days; according to the days of the separation for her infirmity shall she be unclean.3 And in the eighth day the flesh of his foreskin shall be circumcised.4 And she shall then continue in the blood of her purifying three and thirty days; she shall touch no hallowed thing, nor come into the sanctuary, until the days of her purifying be fulfilled.5 But if
    she bear a maid child, then she shall be unclean two weeks, as in her
    separation: and she shall continue in the blood of her purifying threescore
    and six days (66 days).
  3. COMMITMENT- Ps. 37:5 Delight thyself also in the Lord YHWH: and He shall give thee the desires of your heart. The husbands should influence their wives and families in accordance with biblical teaching, but not as a dictator. They should exemplify, with their voice and their actions, attributes that bring glory to YHWH and value to their spouses and family. He will never
    truly have her heart unless he provides for her needs, cares for her well-being, and protects her both physically and spiritually. The Scripture says:
    “Anyone who does not provide for their relatives, and especially for their own house, has denied the faith and is worse than an infidel (unbeliever)” ( 1Tim 5:8). The relationship between a husband and a wife is meant to be one of love, respect, and support. They are to help each other (Gen 2:20-24).